This one may get deep.

I saw a post the other day on Facebook. It talked about how “we were just girls together. We played Barbie’s, had sleep overs, & made up dances together.” It goes on about how you were just girls together and you may not be close to them anymore for various reasons.

Tonight, lying in bed. The song keystone clan popped into my head and then cellophane. I have no idea why, but it took me back to high school and my early twenties, when we were just girls navigating ourselves through life, learning the people we wanted to be.

I’ve always thought of myself as a drifter, I drift in and out of peoples lives, I don’t find myself staying for too long but I’m there when you need me anytime of night or day.

When I was in high school I had a friend group and on any given day you found us piled in somebody’s living room or mostly on my granny’s back porch. Whew the memories made on that old back porch.

I like to say that’s where we first became family.

Through the years, we became an even closer family. We experienced first loves, babies, moving out, heartbreak, death, you name it. It’s crazy that a group of people I now only see once in a blue moon know all of my darkest secrets and I know there’s.

That’s what just being girls together is all about though, and that’s what sucks when you become an adult, get married, & have children – you can’t just be girls together anymore.

I often find myself thinking of “my girls”. The ones that I know I could pick up the phone and call, they’d answer. The ones that if I truly needed to drop everything and them come to me – they would.

Life gets busy, it gets super busy when you throw kids into the mix on top of marriage, on top of transforming into a whole new person after having those kids. We often don’t pick up the phone and call each other or check in. That’s okay because I find myself praying every night for those girls, those babies, & their own families they have now.

I make this post to say it’s okay to not blame your girls when life gets hectic, it’s okay to bump into them out at the grocery store. It’s okay to check in once every six months if that’s what you find is convenient for you. A phone works both ways, and sometimes you both are overwhelmed and can’t pick up that phone. It’s okay to sit back and reflect on those childhood days or think back about the silly memories. It’s even okay to make friends with new people. When you have a friend ship or friendships like we had – you secretly know they’ll always be in your life even if it doesn’t always feel that way.

Cause, when you give a young girl a “tribe” you’re giving her a life time full of laughter. You’re giving her people that hold some of the fondest memories. You’re giving her lifetime friends that turned into sisters long ago. You’re giving her a group of people that will always have her back, when the worlds falling apart.

God, himself knows we weren’t always innocent. We were rebels. We weren’t always the nicest. We put each other in their places when need be. We would challenge each other. We held each other to a higher standard than we did other people. God, himself also knew we would need each other. He knew we’d need someone to be a cheerleader for us, he knew we needed someone we could just walk into their house and not have to knock.

So yeah, it’s okay to be the wild child, the drifter, the hippy, the high strung one. It’s okay to still love the girls – who you got to be just girls together. The girls you got to sneak out with, the girls you got to ride dirt roads with, the girls you got to stay up late watching scary movies, the girls you got to go through the “witchy” phase with, the girls who you got to speed down a back road and jump hills with together, the girls you got to put war paint on with, the girls you got to drink your first tequila shot with. The girls who were there telling you, they are so proud with tears in their eyes when you finally find Jesus.

I promise you, even if life gets busy – they are still thinking about you, they still love you & check in on you, & their parents still ask how your doing.

This one though is for my girls, I love you all. & I’m so proud of each and every one of you🤍